The things I’m about to tell you may have had more impact on one life than that of another. What I can say is that these events are not results of my imagination. I know they’re real because the word, “dammit,” echoed (and still echoes) in my head as soon as I realized what I’d done.
I’ve managed to upset some women throughout my life. These are my greatest hits.
- The Ménage à Three’s Too Many: Being able to talk to one woman is a gift. Anything beyond that is stupidity. Especially when you’re just hoping for one, then end up with nothing because one of them heard about the other(s).
- The Proofreader: It’s not unlikely that a guy could date—outside of separate time periods—two women whose parents liked the same name but with a slightly different spelling. Likelihood I’d fail the spelling bee? Pretty freaking good.
- Aloof is for Kids: When I was in my late teens, I was taken with a piece of fiction in which the female lead was enamored with her love interest’s aloofness. It’s called fiction for a reason, kids.
- Losing at Jenga: I’ve written about blocking before, and there are times when it’s appropriate. You should know it’s not appropriate if you’re blocking two parties who are genuinely interested in each other. Didn’t end well. Just like Jenga.
- Sleepy Makeout: Okay, fine. Sleepy is a stretch. I drank way more than she did and fell into an alcohol-induced stupor when she was just ready for affection. One tends to sleep with their eyes open after something like that.
- The “Do Not Call” List: Going out with the guys and telling her about it? That’s good. Coming back at 4:00 a.m. and not calling to notify? Not so good.
- Gin Blossoms: Hey, jealousy. Hey, lock-it-up-before-she-gives-you-something-to-be-jealous-about. Because she will do it, gin blossom.
- The 180 on Purpose: This is basically overacting. You know, being fake mad or happy when you’re legit mad or happy. Take it from me, this is not to be done around her. Or her family.
- The Silent Treatment: No explanation necessary. Guys don’t win this game. EVER.
- The Public Notary: This only happened once, and I’m not even sure we were officially a couple. She might’ve even been relieved by it. But, the fact I did it in front of people to publicly notarize the event wasn’t cool.
Why the confession? Part of the reason is because I seem to be giving a lot of recent advice for making things work, and the other part is because I can’t have you thinking I know all the answers. I’ve failed plenty of (life) tests.
The mirror might not say I’m an asshole, but it’s not speaking a foreign language when it says I’m an ass. Cupid tapped the collective asses of love and self-awareness a very long time ago.
Just try to keep my greatest hits off your playlist.